conflict

When Your Pastor Chews You Out

No one, especially my pastor, likes to be caught off guard. Surprises allow emotions to take over and it causes the situation to grow complex. When...

conflict

Make Meetings More Than A Meeting

If you need to meet with me make it worth my time.  I’m a meeting snob, because I have little margin and do not want it compromised.  I want to…

accountability

What To Do With Teens In Crisis

I usually do not pick up my phone on Friday nights, but this time was different.  It was a coworker explaining to me that there was a teen in crisis…

conflict

Why You Have To Be The Bad Guy

“Ohio?” I could sense the frustration coming from the parent. She didn’t want her kid to go, but as I explained the retreat was a requirement for...

conflict

How To Deal With Confrontation

Confrontation seems to always rear it’s ugly when you least expect it. Whether it’s in an email or done face to face it can put you in an awkward...

bold moves

How To Be Bold

There I was on top of a telephone pole, sweating profusely trying to ignore the chants of “Jump, jump, jump.” from my classmates. Our high school had...

accountability

Healing Youth Ministry Wounds

For the first three years of ministry I felt that there were certain people out there trying to sabotage me. Sounds ridiculous; however, there were...

chaos

How To Put Out Fires In Youth Ministry

Almost burned the house down the other day. It wasn’t like I was playing with matches, in fact, I was trying to cook a nice meal. Unfortunately, I...