If you get along with all of your coworkers there is no need to read this. But, if there is someone who annoys you or drives you nuts then take assurance that you are normal. Even in church world we encounter difficult coworkers.
But, how do you deal with them? We’re all supposed to be Christians and fighting for the same thing, but that’s not always the case because there are people who:
What do you do about them?
You should ignore them and hope the problem goes away…wait!? That doesn’t work?!
That’s because it doesn’t address the problem. If you want to learn how to work with difficult coworkers, especially in the local church try:
A coworker once taught me a simple prayer for those who were giving me a hard time. The prayer is simple its:
Lord Bless those around me and mold my heart to be more like yours.
It’s a selfless and very difficult prayer to mutter but the more you do it the more it changes your heart to:
It all starts with your attitude and that comes from embracing humility and praying for others before you.
How well do you know your coworkers? Could you name their spouse and kids? Where did they grow up? What do they do in their free time? You don’t have to become best friends, but knowing their story will give you context to their behavior.
Check in with them regularly, but be sincere. Don’t just ask them, “How are you doing?” to seem friendly, do it because the investment is worth it.
We all tend to go through periods of isolation where we believe, “No one else cares about the hard work I’m pouring into this.” It’s a lie and the way we combat it is by celebrating others.
As you get to know what your coworkers do congratulate them when something big happens. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but it should be authentic. You little acknowledgement will make a huge impact.
The key to a healthy team is trust. Trust develops from constant communication because it allows coworkers to be on the same page. People are informed, no one is left in the dark; therefore, no surprises that could leave bad feelings.
But, increasing your communication is more than just talking and listening. It’s also important to:
Communication is paramount to a healthy team. It builds trust and clarity and with that your team can work better together.
In the end it’s not about being best friends with your coworkers but showing them respect. Your investment might not change them but it will help you handle their unique behaviors without losing your head.
What would you say are the top 3 characteristics of a healthy team?
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